Comments for Bipolar Blog http://www.finkshrink.com/blog Information and support Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:58:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 Comment on Bipolar Extramarital Affair by outraged http://www.finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/bipolar-extramarital-affair/comment-page-3#comment-2608 outraged Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:58:50 +0000 http://finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/bipolar-extramarital-affair#comment-2608 Can't believe what fucking pricks you are! How can you talk about leaving a person who is havinbg extramerital affairs due to a psychological disorder? You either take such a condition seriously or you don't and thus don't take the affected person serisously either! How can you be such fucking sodding farts as to use terms like 'cheat'?! Manic people do not just need more excitement, they need more sex to put it plainly. And no, no matter how good your marital sex life is, it won't suffice in a manic phase as those periods are all about variety, and all about not resisting your insiticts. Thus, instead of desiring others beside the beloved one, you go ahead and physically unite with them. WHAT'S the fucking big deal?! Grow up! Can’t believe what fucking pricks you are!
How can you talk about leaving a person who is havinbg extramerital affairs due to a psychological disorder? You either take such a condition seriously or you don’t and thus don’t take the affected person serisously either!
How can you be such fucking sodding farts as to use terms like ‘cheat’?!
Manic people do not just need more excitement, they need more sex to put it plainly. And no, no matter how good your marital sex life is, it won’t suffice in a manic phase as those periods are all about variety, and all about not resisting your insiticts. Thus, instead of desiring others beside the beloved one, you go ahead and physically unite with them. WHAT’S the fucking big deal?!
Grow up!

]]> Comment on Jane’s Family by carole swainston http://www.finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/janes-family/comment-page-2#comment-2604 carole swainston Tue, 31 Jan 2012 14:01:15 +0000 http://finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/janes-family#comment-2604 I am really happy to have found this site. My daughter is 38 and has had bi-polar since she had her first child. I do wonder whether the fact that she did drugs from University onwards brought it on. We have always been very close, when she got really bad after her second child, her husband sent her over to us (they live in the States) we looked after her for 8 months. Then she wanted to divorce her husband. We bought her a house and then she promptly stopped taking her meds, and began getting more and more paranoid, not coming round, and telling everyone who would listen how awful we were. In the end, she left the four bedroomed house that we had bought her like the Marie Celeste, and took our grandchildren to the states with the husband she said she wanted to divorce!! She left us with a house she had chosen, (which we told her was not a good buy), and it took us 18 months of paying the mortgage before we could sell it. I was heart broken, and felt completely used. However this was not enough for her, last summer she wrote me an evil email blaming me for everything that was wrong in her life, saying she was neglected as a child etc,etc. She was really spoiled as a child! Then she began writing a blog on Psychobabble, (you may like to look at it) giving me a total character assassination, I was the most evil person that lived. I was heartbroken and it wasn't until I started looking "lies and bi-polar" that I began to realise this was just the illness talking, which makes it slightly more bearable. Her husband is a "Street Performer" and so they are always in debt, and he is the rudest, most arrogant man I have ever met, who also blames me for everything, I am now thinking that he may have bitten off more than he can chew, as she is so ill.. Last summer she was sectioned and had to have ECT, which shows you how bad she is. Finally I heard from her on Christmas day, when out of the blue, after the viscious email she sent in the summer, she emailed me and wished me a merry christmas, and a good new year. I left it for a week and then wrote and wished her the same, but in addition I told her I had read all her blogs - I have not heard from her since! I am really happy to have found this site. My daughter is 38 and has had bi-polar since she had her first child. I do wonder whether the fact that she did drugs from University onwards brought it on. We have always been very close, when she got really bad after her second child, her husband sent her over to us (they live in the States) we looked after her for 8 months. Then she wanted to divorce her husband. We bought her a house and then she promptly stopped taking her meds, and began getting more and more paranoid, not coming round, and telling everyone who would listen how awful we were. In the end, she left the four bedroomed house that we had bought her like the Marie Celeste, and took our grandchildren to the states with the husband she said she wanted to divorce!! She left us with a house she had chosen, (which we told her was not a good buy), and it took us 18 months of paying the mortgage before we could sell it. I was heart broken, and felt completely used.

However this was not enough for her, last summer she wrote me an evil email blaming me for everything that was wrong in her life, saying she was neglected as a child etc,etc. She was really spoiled as a child!

Then she began writing a blog on Psychobabble, (you may like to look at it) giving me a total character assassination, I was the most evil person that lived. I was heartbroken and it wasn’t until I started looking “lies and bi-polar” that I began to realise this was just the illness talking, which makes it slightly more bearable. Her husband is a “Street Performer” and so they are always in debt, and he is the rudest, most arrogant man I have ever met, who also blames me for everything, I am now thinking that he may have bitten off more than he can chew, as she is so ill.. Last summer she was sectioned and had to have ECT, which shows you how bad she is. Finally I heard from her on Christmas day, when out of the blue, after the viscious email she sent in the summer, she emailed me and wished me a merry christmas, and a good new year. I left it for a week and then wrote and wished her the same, but in addition I told her I had read all her blogs – I have not heard from her since!

]]> Comment on My Bipolar Mother by mercedes biggins http://www.finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/my-bipolar-mother/comment-page-2#comment-2603 mercedes biggins Sun, 29 Jan 2012 20:02:46 +0000 http://finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/my-bipolar-mother#comment-2603 She says god talks to her and sometimes says we are evil she will just start writing on the walls she will refuse to take her meds. She has also claedy brothers imborn child is the spawn of satan becuz the.due date is 6/6/12. We are not on speakimg terms right now again because I'm the reason why everything wrong happens to her down to me being born and taking her life away becuz she had.me at 16. I know she is sick but this hurts to hear this your whole life and not to understand it. I habe done nothing but tried to make her proud of me amd mothing is ever good enough She says god talks to her and sometimes says we are evil she will just start writing on the walls she will refuse to take her meds. She has also claedy brothers imborn child is the spawn of satan becuz the.due date is 6/6/12. We are not on speakimg terms right now again because I’m the reason why everything wrong happens to her down to me being born and taking her life away becuz she had.me at 16. I know she is sick but this hurts to hear this your whole life and not to understand it. I habe done nothing but tried to make her proud of me amd mothing is ever good enough

]]> Comment on My Bipolar Mother by mercedes biggins http://www.finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/my-bipolar-mother/comment-page-2#comment-2602 mercedes biggins Sun, 29 Jan 2012 19:51:06 +0000 http://finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/my-bipolar-mother#comment-2602 Wow... I'm 21 years old with two kids and a fiancee. My mother is bipolar and has been most of my life. I can't believe how many peoplr are going throught the sam stuff I am. My mother has recently became real manic.. I recently told her about my step father sexually abusing me while I was younger and told me it was all my fault. My brother second born is what you guys refer to as the golden child. I've always tried to please her but nothing ever could amount up to him. He has done her so wrong on so many occastio.s. I habe recently have become very depressed about it all and I'm looking for guidence advice help anything. I'm at my wits end and I do not want my children growing up dealing with her the way I have its done some much damage. Please help me. :'( Wow… I’m 21 years old with two kids and a fiancee. My mother is bipolar and has been most of my life. I can’t believe how many peoplr are going throught the sam stuff I am. My mother has recently became real manic.. I recently told her about my step father sexually abusing me while I was younger and told me it was all my fault. My brother second born is what you guys refer to as the golden child. I’ve always tried to please her but nothing ever could amount up to him. He has done her so wrong on so many occastio.s. I habe recently have become very depressed about it all and I’m looking for guidence advice help anything. I’m at my wits end and I do not want my children growing up dealing with her the way I have its done some much damage. Please help me. :’(

]]> Comment on Amy (Husband with Bipolar) by Been There http://www.finkshrink.com/blog/bipolar-stories-and-insights/amy-husband-with-bipolar/comment-page-1#comment-2599 Been There Tue, 24 Jan 2012 04:27:05 +0000 http://www.finkshrink.com/blog/?page_id=524#comment-2599 I empathize with your story and I know how painful it be trying to cope with this. I too was married to my ex for 20 years. While I knew he had addictive tendencies (both his parents were alcoholics), they did not rear their ugly heads until he was in his early 40's. He suddenly became obsessed with "hobbies": expensive music equipment (he all of a sudden was a "composer"), astronomy and telescopes, flying motorized model airplanes, model trains. He did not do these in moderation, he was truly obsessed with each hobby. After several years, his hobbies came to include becoming either emotionally and/or physically involved with other women: coworkers, ex-girlfriends, waitresses, etc. He had extreme mood swings, terrible outbursts of rage, extreme passive-aggessive behavior, etc. He became a completely different man than the one I had fallen in love with and married and had children with. He became 100% self-absorbed and totally detached from being a family man. This was many years ago, and I now am educated and experienced about Bipolar and other mental illnesses. I am convinced without a doubt that he had undiagnosed Bipolar, which ultimately ruined our marriage. You did not say in your post whether your husband has been officially diagnosed and/or on med's. I feel this is crucial. If he acknowledges he has a problem, is remorseful of his behavior, and is actively and sincerely getting treatment, I feel your marriage has a chance to survive (keep in mind that this may not be in your best interests...seek couseling for yourself to explore that). If he is in denial, and says you are the crazy one that is causing all the problems, and refuses to get psychiatric help, then I really think you should cut your losses and get out SOON!!! Things are not going to get better, in fact all the ongoing stress threatens your mental health. I know first hand how devastating the end of a long term marriage and divorce is, but sometimes it comes down to personal survival. I highly recommend you to contact NAMI in your area, and go to a few free support groups for spouses. This will start you on your journey. Wishing you the best. I empathize with your story and I know how painful it be trying to cope with this. I too was married to my ex for 20 years. While I knew he had addictive tendencies (both his parents were alcoholics), they did not rear their ugly heads until he was in his early 40′s. He suddenly became obsessed with “hobbies”: expensive music equipment (he all of a sudden was a “composer”), astronomy and telescopes, flying motorized model airplanes, model trains. He did not do these in moderation, he was truly obsessed with each hobby. After several years, his hobbies came to include becoming either emotionally and/or physically involved with other women: coworkers, ex-girlfriends, waitresses, etc. He had extreme mood swings, terrible outbursts of rage, extreme passive-aggessive behavior, etc. He became a completely different man than the one I had fallen in love with and married and had children with. He became 100% self-absorbed and totally detached from being a family man.

This was many years ago, and I now am educated and experienced about Bipolar and other mental illnesses. I am convinced without a doubt that he had undiagnosed Bipolar, which ultimately ruined our marriage.

You did not say in your post whether your husband has been officially diagnosed and/or on med’s. I feel this is crucial. If he acknowledges he has a problem, is remorseful of his behavior, and is actively and sincerely getting treatment, I feel your marriage has a chance to survive (keep in mind that this may not be in your best interests…seek couseling for yourself to explore that). If he is in denial, and says you are the crazy one that is causing all the problems, and refuses to get psychiatric help, then I really think you should cut your losses and get out SOON!!! Things are not going to get better, in fact all the ongoing stress threatens your mental health. I know first hand how devastating the end of a long term marriage and divorce is, but sometimes it comes down to personal survival.

I highly recommend you to contact NAMI in your area, and go to a few free support groups for spouses. This will start you on your journey.

Wishing you the best.

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