It was only the last 2 yrs of our marriage it went off the chart, hinting to others of abuse (that is so far from my character and was applaud of such horrible accusations), I stated believing that i was the problem and that i needed to do something. In a conversation to her sister made that comment and she said “wow, its about time i said something; women would kill for a husband like you and to be honest don’t know how you put up with her outburst and put downs (i was applaud at such honesty). My wife found out i talked to her and then started telling everyone i was having an affair with her sister and then asked me to leave our house. I slepted in my office then a trailer in the parking lot.

After a couple of months she asked me over and when i went to leave said i could stay the night (what a mistake that would devastate my life). As it had been two months from any intimacy asked if she wouldn’t mind and she said nothing; upon approach started yelling rape, scared me to death and thought my kids would hear this and would again put me in a bad light; so out of instinct put my hand up toward her mouth and said stop that. She bite my hand and would not let go, i literally had to pry her teeth open to get my hand out and was in shock!

She kept yelling and finally our oldest daughter came in and she told her to call 911 and that started the nightmare of my life; facing 10 yrs to life for attempted rape…jail and all the trauma of that and my kids who turned against me for several years.

It has now been 5 yrs we are divorced and although i have had other relationships with women they have made comments that i still care about my ex and cannot compete. I was so loyal but although a pillar of the community and well off have lost most everything. Have rebuilt the business but in this economy isn’t saying much; she had a great lawyer and took me for what the state didn’t. Tuff part is on the occasions i am around her, which is rare; i know she still cares as well but says nothing.

I have been to counseling etc. and am alot better as far as my own security, but in all honesty want companionship but have trust issues.

A few months later, his mom met someone over the internet and moved to Thailand with him.
Luke joined the Air Force and left in January.
His brother moved to Thailand with his mom and her new husband.
Luke graduated Basic Training in March and we got married the day of graduation…

My family never liked Luke, so they never supported any decisions we ever made together. Luke graduates Tech. Training the 28th. We are supposed to be moving to North Dakota, but all of a sudden things change. .
He completely stops talking to me and the rest of his family. We have been married for only 4 months and he lives 1000 miles away from me right now. He isnt cheating-that is something we all know. He is having trouble in school, and he went to a counseler and they told him he was stressed out and alot of it had to do with his childhood and his past.

Its been hard for me to leave him alone. Obviously he wants to be left alone, but I dont know how. I miss him so much!! No matter what I tell him, or anyone tells him, it doesnt seem to do anything. He seems depressed-BAD. And he is always spending our money. 2 weeks ago he took out $630.00 of our account!!

I read that stress and sudden life changes can trigger bipolar disorder. His dad is bipolar and that was one reason his parents split after married for 20 years.

Last week he told me I couldnt be with someone like him… he wont admit to having bipolar, and I cant say anything about it or he will get mad! Im limited to what I can say, especially since I am 1000 miles away from him… and have been ever since we got married. He wants to separate just because he cant handle the stress.. but we dont know what its like to even be married.

He gets paid in 2 days and graduates school in 15!!
Is my marriage worth flying out there to see him grad. and riding back with him before the move.??
I dont even know if im moving.