Comments on: Bipolar Boyfriend – Help!

By: highlymedikated

highlymedikated — Sat, 10 Apr 2010 16:26:06 +0000

I myself have dealt with years of drug/alcohol abuse hiding from my bipolar+ptsd+bpd. I made irrational choices causing me to be in the court system. I would leave my living situation with the clothes on my back. I was homeless 4x by the time I was 22. I always said I didn’t need meds yet I’ve been on and off them since I was 12yrs old. almost 10 yrs ago when I was 22 I tried to go sober. By the time I was 24 my bipolar started getting worse with suicidal thoughts. Finally at 26 I stayed on meds and will never get off them, point being no matter how much people that love you tell you you need help. It’s only gonna happen when they do it, remember people with mental disorders have their own way of thinking. I take a ton of meds and I just got taking out of work due to so much stress I started seeing/hearing things and last june I spent a week in the mental hospital. my wonderful wonderful husband has been by my side for 9yrs and we haven’t been married a yr yet. If your boyfriend comes back(hopefully cuz u care)and tells you about his thoughts and why he left. you probally have a good chance with the relationship. Remember NO ONE wants to admit they are MENTALLY ILL

By: Robert

Robert — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 00:06:14 +0000

My name is Robert I am 53 and I am bipolar. I have lived a life of drugs and alcohol to self medicate my self to relieve the pain and suffering. I now see a psychiatrist and therapist and have been for several years. I also have been married for 28 years to the same woman, have two daughters. Life living with someone that is bipolar is not an easy life for anyone. You feel pain being with him and it must hurt to see him going through his manic of spending money and wanting to move out. If he won’t get help then he will drink and drug until things get better (for him) then he will slow down some. I can say that the doctors meds help but not all the time and then they have to be changed and then there is the time you have to go through until they are right again. Bipolar does not end with meds but it helps a whole lot, so tell him not to give up. He then needs to get couceling, find God and find a support group. He needs to know that he is not alone and that others suffer from it. I was in my forties before I listened to my wife to seek help. If you truly love him, help him, you maybe the only one that will ever care enough for him or that he trusts enough to listen to. Good luck and God bless.

By: Roz

Roz — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 05:22:38 +0000

My now ex-boyfriend was actually diagnosed with Bipolar. When he took the medication prescribed to him – he was the BEST BOYFRIEND EVER!!! We were so great together, and actually, that was the only time I felt truly loved by him. When he ran out of meds, he didn’t go back to his dr. because he said he “never noticed a difference”. After and before that we were on and off; he liked me, he didn’t; he loved me, he hated me; he wanted to get married and have a child, then that was just an absurd idea. Although he didn’t notice a difference, obviously, I did. He refused to believe how I felt when I described how different he was on the meds. He continued to say that he WAS NOT CRAZY & didn’t need to be on “drugs”, but he was constantly either drinking every day, smoking pot and popping pills more than occassionally. His life has always been this way, so the only thing I can think of is that it has just become totally normal for him not to have solid decisions, thoughts, etc. I don’t know if I have any advice to give you but all I know is that if my ex did not love me enough to believe how different things were when he was on his meds, then he doesn’t even love himself. Constantly being on substances is true evidence that he doesn’t love himself. And if someone doesn’t love themselves, then they surely can’t love anyone else. I finally had to leave FOR GOOD. I realized that he needs to realize for himself that the diagnosis is real…not because he loves me or not. It’s just like an addict, they need to become clean for themselves, not for anyone else. All I can do is pray that he opens his eyes to his illness, or he will never have a stable life. I will pray for you and your ex.